January 31, 2011

There is wisdom to be found in the path freely taken. With ease of movement comes the clarity of mind to absorb those things along our path. My encouragement to you is to seek the path for your own life which give you the most peace. Travel that one and find more than you imagine.

January 30, 2011

I just finished reading, "Soul-Hearted Partnership" by Debra L.Reble. This book is amazing and I recommend it for all persons in relationships or wanting to be in a relationship.

There are two sections to this book; "Soul-hearted relationship with yourself, and soul-hearted relationship with another. I consider myself to be fairly competent concerning relationships. I have read many books on the subject, attending several seminars, been through an extensive course, had my own ups and downs in relationships, counseled many successfully in this area, and am continually open to growing.

In this book, came upon some new things that really encouraged me to move even a step or two beyond what I already know. My current relationship with my wife, Gina, is a very good one. We are spiritually connected and the depths of our connection are unlike anything I have ever experienced or imagined. Yet, I feel as though I am now at a new beginning.

I will now begin efforts to become even more transparent with my own life where Gina is concerned. I will share more with her. There are many feelings and issues I still keep locked deep within me that would be better let out. I will now put my trust in her and release them using methods I learned from this book.

Truth be told, I am a bit afraid, but have the confidence that all will be well. I will let you know

A Life Well Lived?

A life Lived Well?

Does such a life exist? If so, how is it measured? Who is in charge of measuring it? If lived in a different time, or a different place, does the definition of a life well lived changed? If so, how are we to determine now what this life looks like without using current tools of societal creation, or perspectives developed with our own life’s experience?

These questions, although ultimately unanswerable, at least in reference to others, serve a great purpose for those seeking truth for themselves.

Are you able to relate to the following?

My vision of a life well lived:

1. Close family relationships upon or prior to death
2. A collection of adventurous memories.
3. True and unconditional love both given to and received from a partner
4. Peacefulness – a deep and feeling peacefulness that is evident and growing during life and peaks moments prior to death
5. Having elevated persons in life above where they were stationed and to where those persons elected go
6. Leaving behind a legacy that continues when gone (this can be in many different forms)
7. A treasure chest of wisdom based on personal experience and coupled with the sharing of that wisdom.

For me, it is not important that a life be measured while still existing in its current form. Of course, many of us do this, but doing so is a waste of precious and valuable time. We must simply move forward with conviction.

Taking into account the list above, it is most important to understand the fact others will determine the true measurement and result of our life. In addition, this will be primarily done when we are gone.

There will be talk about you while living - rumors, uplifting things shared between others concerning you, and more. However their true contemplation of your life, who you were, and what your impact was, will only be seriously considered when you (or I) are gone.

Maybe however, the above list is a subconscious way of how I would like my own life measured. In fact, it is probable this is the way I am measuring it myself.

How about you? What is your vision of a life well lived?

We spend so much time projecting our concern on others, and mostly fail to view, review, and renew on our life. This is not new information for most of you, nevertheless it bears repeating.

Take a moment and create a list reflecting you own vision, as is listed above. After you are finished, contemplate it for a bit. My list really was a reflection of who I measure my own life and how I want to be measured. What about yours? Be honest with yourself. Your view does matter. To some degree, your view will determine your personal evolvement and joy in life. Briefly put, is your focus on judging others creating yourself for others?

A Life's Saga

Letting go of the brass ring and the reward it carries
Careening wildly through a kaleidoscope of emotion
Raising spurs of pain that claw against my under-skin
Crazed with misunderstanding and lacking knowledge

I die and live a bit each day – waiting

Lost souls of undetermined destiny
Misguided spirits of meaningless wonder
Desecration of mind and organs willed
Dissemination of passion misplaced

They die and live a bit each day – lost

Future unfolding with sunlight’s glare
Yesterday misleading but guiding the same
Today is tomorrow and holds onto past
Life nonexistent lived by each one

We live in that day with understanding and peace - forgiven

A Terraced Truth

Truth in life is terraced and constructed with instability
Stones of sand are laid with the frailty of human existence
Trepidation consumes the traveler’s soul as life is journeyed
Turning each stone in search of one nugget to hold onto

Truth is sought with vigor
Sadness is our reward
Aching peels away our spirit
Blood destroys our past

Longing for future and what may exist
Seeking a fortune of heart and healing
Moving towards sunlight with fear
Dying inside on the way to who knows

Crying for what never has been
Weeping with scarring passion
Draining the light from within
Hiding in shadows of desperation

Peace not received has been given away
Freedom to move through life unencumbered
Clouds of darkness slip in undetected
Life created is destroyed from day one

Carnival masters move crowds along
Collecting on misery plainly existing
Attractions of spinning reflecting the soul
Nausea simply a state of living this life

Truth not uncovered or existing for one
Absolution a fantasy used as a ransom
Blood reigns through thoughts and feelings
The terrace traversed but dissolving below